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Self Discipline is a critical life skill that is not normally taught in most schools leaving children severely underprepared as they grow and eventually move into adulthood.  We cannot rely on parents to teach this skill and if they happen to be already, then it will only be reinforced by what they get complimentarily in the classroom.

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Children who learn self-discipline skills have been scientifically proven to be:

  • More successful in life
  • Go on to higher levels of education and achievement
  • Earn higher salaries
  • Less likely to engage in drug use or other substance abuse
  • Less prone to depression and other mental illnesses

Quite simply, self-discipline gives them the tools they need to succeed as an adult.  Without these skills children and adolescents are prone to over dependency on parents and potentially anyone they get into a relationship with.

How to Teach Children Self-Discipline

There are many methods to teach children self discipline, however, we recommend using a method that is not restrictive, but rather encourages them to develop their own habits by showing them the benefits of cultivating the skill.  We believe in working through reward, not through reprimand.

Websites About Self Discipline and Related Life Skills

The Healers Journal - Teaching You to Heal Your Mind Body and Spirit - This website features regular articles about topics relating to self improvement and personal growth which are complementary to learning about self discipline.

Books on Self Discipline for Children

Positive Discipline for Preschoolers: For Their Early Years–Raising Children Who are Responsible, Respectful, and Resourceful by Jane Nelsen Ed.D.

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The Discipline Book: How to Have a Better-Behaved Child From Birth to Age Ten by Martha Sears

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By Sunnuhvoll Staff

We all want what’s best for the children in our life. We want them to grow up to be happy, successful, contributing members of society.

But it can sometimes feel overwhelming as there is so much we need  to teach children in order to equip them to face the challenges of life. Knowing what principles are the most important to success can make a huge difference in helping to guide our efforts. Following are our top five recommended habits to teach children that will best help to ensure their success later in life:

1. Accept Personal Responsibility

Success comes to those who recognize that their success is completely dependent on them and their actions. It’s so easy for people to make excuses on their external circumstances and to blame their lack of success on others.

A lot of these habits and patterns of thought are started in our childhood. We can help children by allowing them to experience the consequences of their actions. It can be painful to watch children suffer the consequences of bad choices, but by doing so you will be helping them accept personal responsibility which will help them throughout their life.

2. Take Initiative

One of the big differences between those who achieve success and those who don’t is the ability to take initiative when opportunities present themselves.

We can encourage children to take this same initiative early in life, and by so doing will strengthen their confidence in being able to solve problems and create solutions. When you hear a child complain about anything, ask them how they might be able to take initiative to solve the problem they’re complaining about.

3. Work Hard

Hard work can make up a for a lot of inadequacies when it comes to achieving success. If hard work isn’t a habit that children learn when they’re young, it’s much less likely they’ll learn how to work hard later in life.

One of the best ways to teach children to work hard is to work alongside them. Children learn best by example, and so having good examples of those in their life is a very important element for them to develop this habit.

4. Make Friends

This is a skill that is often over-looked when examining the skills that lead to success, but its importance cannot be overstated. The ability to make friends and to have people like us is just that, it’s a skill. As such, it can be learned.

Helping children to be considerate, polite, and friendly will open up many doors for them in this life. We could discuss many stories where less-talented people have achieved incredible heights of success solely because of their people skills.

5. Be Persistent

The last habit that is essential for children to learn is the habit of being persistent. Setting goals doesn’t do much for us if we don’t persistently follow the actions we’ve outlined for ourselves. There have been legions of people with great intentions that have set out to do some amazing things, but their lack of persistence in effort led them to fall short of their desired outcome.

The best way to encourage children to be persistent is by discouraging their desire to quite something they’ve started. It’s easy to quit when things aren’t going quite as we imagined, but helping children to push through those objections will help them to learn persistence.

Success often comes out of the habits and patterns we develop in our youth. By focusing on helping the children in your life develop these habits while they’re young, you’ll be setting them on a path to success at a very young age.

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